ALICIA WALLACE: We must put a stop to blaming the victims

By ALICIA WALLACE

IT is day 10 of the Global 16 Days Campaign, also known as 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence. When the campaign started, on November 25, people were still upset about the rape and murder of 12-year-old Adriel Moxey. People were still upset that, just days after Adriel Moxey’s body was found, it was reported that 72-year-old Vernencha Butler had been raped and murdered. Today, there is hardly any reference made to the girl or to the elderly woman. As always the news cycle moved people along. The focus has been on corruption of police and politicians.

This is why the Global 16 Days Campaign exists. Sixteen days is not nearly enough time to talk about gender-based violence, highlight cases of import, look at recommendations that have been made to The Bahamas, review laws and policies that are discriminatory and violent, or advocate for specific changes. There is always more work to do. The campaign does, however, give us a period of time that is recognised by many institutions and some individuals as necessary, requiring attention, and demanding meaningful action.

The immediate reaction to reports of the rape and murder of Adriel Moxey, and comments following interviews with her mother, showed that the general public is accustomed to focusing on individuals — specifically to blame them —instead of looking at the environment and systems that people are trying to function within when they are not built for our benefit. It is difficult to hear about a tragedy and not be able to place the blame on someone, especially when the blame can help us to deny that the tragedy could ever affect us. People want to think they are too smart, too good, too careful to be victims of tragedy.

It is easy, too, to blame the perpetrator for his violent, horrific crimes. It is actually easier to blame the person who acted in an abominable way than it is to blame people who are not only innocent, but suffering as a result of the tragedy. The Bahamas, however, has practised blaming victims and, in particular, blaming mothers. When a child is missing, when a child is murdered, when a child is apprehended by police, when a child is struggling in school, “Where was the mother?” Even in asking the question, people are generally uninterested in the facts of mothers’ whereabouts and competing responsibilities. People do not want to face the fact that working to get money to meet children’s physical needs is not compatible with meeting the psychosocial needs of children.

Systems designed by the government and private sector do not allow parents to work and be active parents, able to be with their children when school is out. Alternatives are generally not provided — not in the form of flexible work arrangements, and not in the form of childcare. There is nothing less interesting than this to the people screaming out for the heads of mothers except the whereabouts and priorities of the fathers.

The people who have enacted violence are the ones that must carry the blame for what they have done.

We need to change the questions we ask when children are abducted, sexually violated, and murdered. It is not productive to ask why a child was walking. Children walk every day. They walk to school. They walk to the tuck shop. They walk to the grocery store to work. They walk back home. Adults walk too. Sometimes adults are also assaulted. On their way to the bus stop where they expect to be able to catch a bus to go to work. On their way to the grocery store to pick up a few items. On their way to a party. On their way back home. People walk.

Sure, we can ask what it would be like if people did not have to walk. The way to get there, however, is not that everyone owns a car and drives themselves and their dependents everywhere they need to go. A properly functioning, safe, reliable public transportation with extended hours may be a bit closer to where the conversations need to focus. Still there are better questions.

What if we could walk? What if elderly people could walk from church to their homes at 8pm? What if women could walk to the bus stop before daybreak? What if girls could walk home from their after school activities? What if it was simply safe to walk?

We need to consider the reasons that so many need someone— a person — to blame when they failed systems and lack of systems are blatant. We need to consider the reasons that mothers are seen as the only parents, and the only people with any responsibility for their children, even when they cannot be with them at all times. We need to consider the reasons that the first (and sometimes only) idea that many people have is to restrict the movement and freedom of women and girls in an attempt to prevent violence against women and girls. We need to consider the reasons that people are not talking about the very real, very obvious problems which include the fact that we cannot safely walk and the fact that there are many sexual predators and murderers around us. We need to learn to ask better questions. We need to demand more of the government which exists to meet our needs, acknowledging that we cannot meet them all ourselves, through enactment and implementation of laws as well as provision of reliable, quality public goods and services.


Remaining Global 16 Days Campaign events, hosted by Equality Bahamas.

Wednesday, December 4: Managing Disasters, with Barrise Griffin

Barrise Griffin is known as the the Master of Disaster. Her work focuses on critically examining the social perceptions of risk to create more effective strategies in disaster preparedness and response throughout the Caribbean. Equality Bahamas will be in conversation with Barrise Griffin about disaster management, putting focus on disaster preparedness, response, and recovery. Disaster management cannot be about individual actions, contingent on our limited resources. To be effective, it has to be systemic and for the benefit of all. Join the session to find out about existing systems for disaster management and what The Bahamas still needs to build. Register: tiny.cc/16daysgriffin


Thursday, December 5: Femicide in the Caribbean, with Taitu Heron

Since 2020, Equality Bahamas has included advocacy to end femicide in its Global 16 Days Campaign activities. In 2023, we had a conversation with Myrna Dawson about her work to build and maintain the Canadian Femicide Observatory. Taitu Heron attended the event and later connected with Myrna Dawson and decided to conduct research on femicide in The Bahamas, Barbados, and Jamaica. Femicide is the killing of a woman or girl because of her sex or gender. The term is not used in The Bahamas or the rest of the Caribbean which means the killings of women and girls are not properly counted or analysed. We’ll be in conversation with Taitu Heron about her research on femicide in select countries in the Caribbean. We are looking forward to finding a way forward in research on femicide and ensuring that cases are recorded and the analysis contributes to the work to prevent femicide and gender-based violence. Register: tiny.cc/16daysheron.


Saturday, December 7: Making Our Rage Visible, with Sonia Farmer and Margot Bethel at Poinciana Paper Press.

We need time and space to engage with the arts and create art of our own. Equality Bahamas partners with Poinciana Paper Press to host and facilitate sessions to bring people together to try new activities, have discussions, and create items imbued that are useful, beautiful, and meaningful to everyone involved. On Saturday, people are welcome to drop in at any time between 10am and 5pm to try block printing (which will involve making a stamp) and screen printing. Participation in these activities come with the gift of newly printed pieces, including a bandana that is part of a limited run and connect with a campaign by Equality Bahamas. This event, as with all Equality Bahamas events, is free of charge.


Monday, December 9: Writing Our Rage, with Staceyann Chin at Poinciana Paper Press.

Staceyann Chin is known across the Caribbean and all over the US as a poet who writes and speaks her rage with a conviction and energy that brings other people into it. There is limited capacity in the writing workshop she will facilitate for people interested in getting their rage on the page. No experience in writing poetry is necessary to join this workshop. Register: tiny.cc/ragewriting


Tuesday, December 10: Let’s Make a Rage Book! with Sonia Farmer at Poinciana Paper Press.

Making a book is challenging, fun experience. Doing it in a group is even more fun because everyone can see the skills in the room. Each person is always particularly good at one of the tasks, and no one can really guess which person will be best at which task. There are many ways to make a book, but participants will have to wait until Tuesday to find out which one Sonia Farmer will demonstrate and guide us through. Equality Bahamas highly recommends that those interested in making a book also participate in the printmaking day on Saturday. The prints made on that day may be used for the book covers. In this session, we will keep the rage theme going and everyone will leave with a rage book of their own. Register: tiny.cc/ragebook

Comments

Porcupine says...

Blaming the victim is what we do best in this country.
It absolves us all of any responsibility for the utter degeneration of our social values.

Posted 5 December 2024, 7:39 a.m. Suggest removal

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